Ever since I returned to the mainland, it has been a tough challenge to get work done with the less than desirable power supply. Most days are void with shouts of ‘Up Nepa’ that greets the return of electricity to the Lagos suburb I reside in. With less power supply, there are higher chances of a dead laptop, phone and power bank.
As someone who had a good share of negative experiences growing up, which formed how I saw the world, I became poisoned by the elements of negativity in the environment and found it difficult to see the good in everything. As an instance, when someone pitched an idea to me, I would initially see all the reasons why that idea may never work. I had grown up in an environment of broken promises and this made me a natural sceptic. But recently, I have been on a journey towards change.
You guys don’t know how excited I am writing this post.
So I took this brave step last week Saturday, precisely 11th March 2017, to do a social media detox. I mean, five minutes before that decision, I never thought about making such a bold move. All I wanted was to stop making excuses for how lame the last two months had been regarding the ruthless execution of my goals.
So I told myself, something has got to give, and it was not hard knowing what those things were.
“Lord knows I loved that girl so much, but it did not work out”
See yeah, I can relate.
After two failed relationships, and many other “we are talking” friendships, I can say that relationships are a lot of work. It takes grit, patience, kindness, and compassion for two people who love each other to make it through the fights and differences. But sometimes, it never just works out, for various reasons, no matter how hard they try to ride into the sunshine holding hands after an argument or when seemingly are ‘good’ for each other. But a breakup is not the apocalypse. So much more lies ahead. In fact, as you will come to know later, it is a blessing in disguise.
Tobi Gbemisola 