As someone who had a good share of negative experiences growing up, which formed how I saw the world, I became poisoned by the elements of negativity in the environment and found it difficult to see the good in everything. As an instance, when someone pitched an idea to me, I would initially see all the reasons why that idea may never work. I had grown up in an environment of broken promises and this made me a natural sceptic. But recently, I have been on a journey towards change.
You guys don’t know how excited I am writing this post.
So I took this brave step last week Saturday, precisely 11th March 2017, to do a social media detox. I mean, five minutes before that decision, I never thought about making such a bold move. All I wanted was to stop making excuses for how lame the last two months had been regarding the ruthless execution of my goals.
So I told myself, something has got to give, and it was not hard knowing what those things were.
“Lord knows I loved that girl so much, but it did not work out”
See yeah, I can relate.
After two failed relationships, and many other “we are talking” friendships, I can say that relationships are a lot of work. It takes grit, patience, kindness, and compassion for two people who love each other to make it through the fights and differences. But sometimes, it never just works out, for various reasons, no matter how hard they try to ride into the sunshine holding hands after an argument or when seemingly are ‘good’ for each other. But a breakup is not the apocalypse. So much more lies ahead. In fact, as you will come to know later, it is a blessing in disguise.
Confession, confession – when it comes to minding one’s business, I used to be one of the worst of them all. I often found it hard to face my front when stuff is going on around me. It was either I was eavesdropping or trying to answer a question that was not mine to answer. This does not happen everywhere and with everyone, though. It all depends on the familiarity I have with that environment. So, for instance, I am alone in a public transport vehicle, bro, you can’t even see me talking to a stranger much less contributing to a discussion, I am as quiet as they come but in the office with my friends, I am known for jumping into conversations except I am really busy.